The Wanderlust Life

You Deserve A Vacation, Here's Why

You work hard. You break your back for the man. (Now sis, if you’re breaking your back for your man, you might need to find a new man, ok? But if your man is breaking your back...nevermind, I’ve derailed the conversation already) * Clears Throat *

YOU WORK HARD. You break your back for the man. You are on the job day in and day out. You give your all, smile when required, possibly even hold yourself back from snapping on your coworker because this job is paying your bills, and you can’t afford to not pay your bills. You compose yourself and “woosah” for the sake of keeping your apartment. You carry on.

Most people I know don’t get any paid vacation, but they do get unpaid vacation. What the f*** is that? How can I enjoy myself knowing my next check is going to be short? How will I make ends meet? All valid questions. The reality of the fact is that those with paid vacation rarely take it because they fear they will be seen as less hardworking by their employers. My response to that….BITCH WHERE? BITCH HOW? BITCH HUH?

Did yall know that Austria has required 22 days of paid vacation time and 13 paid holidays? France requires 30 paid vacation days and 1 paid holiday. New Zealand requires 20 vacation days and 10 paid holidays. This is government mandated. Here, in the US, we have ZERO. None. No required paid holidays. No required paid vacation days. I’m honestly thinking it’s time to move.

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Stress and burnout cost the U.S. economy over $300 billion each year. Men who do not take regular vacation are 32% more likely to die of a heart attack. Women who do not take regular vacations are 50% more at-risk of a heart attack. Y’all can have that. I’m not ready to die breaking my back for the man. I’m taking my damn vacation time.


It honestly benefits employers when they encourage their employees to take vacations. Employees who regularly go on vacations have increased production rate, increased morale and motivation. They stay longer with the organization and their productivity skyrockets which improves long-term profits for the employer. WHY AREN’T WE GETTING MORE VACATION DAYS?

How many vacation days do you get? Do you get any? Let me know in the comments below.

Happy Wandering…

10 Things I Learned From Heartbreak

Here is the official list:

  1. Shits tough bruh. It just is.

  2. You are stronger than you think. Consider that you are no longer bawling your eyes out in fetal position.

  3. Patiences is a motherfucker. I know I prayed for it, but damn I gotta be tested everyday?

  4. Allow the people you love to be there for you. You don’t have to be the strong friend everyday. Let them help you carry this load.

  5. Healing is a process; never an overnight fix.

  6. You will grow regardless of how broken your heart is. Your light will reach the darkest of corners.

  7. Sometimes people are shitty. That’s ok, forgive them anyways. Forgiveness is for you, never for them.

  8. Never tie your worth to anyone except yourself. You are worthy because you deem yourself worthy.

  9. This is a rollercoaster ride! Some days you’re on top of the world and the next day you’re crying on the verse mic. The duplicitous nature of humans I guess.

  10. As long as you are the holder of all the love you require, you will never search for it in anyone else. Your love journey starts with you. Your love journey ends with you. Your love journey is just that, a journey, so be kind to yourself along the way.

Solo Female Travel: Tips, Tricks, and How to Not Die

So you're looking to travel alone, but you're not trying to die? Cool. I literally had the same thoughts before my first solo trip. Was I nervous? YES. Was I on the airplane considering turning around? YES. Did I cry and want to return home? At some point, sure. So why am I promoting it? What's the point? How did I survive? Stay tuned on the next episode of Dragon Ball-Wad. 

I want to make this easy for you to read, so I'll answer some main questions regarding solo-travel. Keep in mind that this is not a comprehensive list. If you have more questions, feel free to ask in the comments below! 

 

1. WHY IS SOLO TRAVEL MORE FUN THAN GROUP TRAVEL?

Where do I even begin? You are given the freedom to do exactly what you want to do. Museums? Go there! Clubs? Enjoy! Experiment with new delicacies? HELL YES. You have the opportunity to travel as you wish. You are not tied to anyone interjecting with their (undesirable) opinion. You eat when you want to, wake up when you want to, meet people on your accord, and live life on your terms. What could be better? It is a time for self-reflection and an amazing time to learn about yourself as a human being. It challenges you in the best way possible, pushes you outside of your comfort zone, and helps you grow. Want to adult real quick? Travel Solo. You learn to fend for yourself. You learn about the world around you, different cultures, and it makes you more open and susceptible to growth. 

This is not to say that when you travel with a group you don't grow, but you are more prone to fall into routine. More prone to stick to what you know. Less likely to experiment, especially if those you are traveling with are stuck in their ways. Solo travel is a chance for adventure, self-discovery, and has always been a place where I find my inner peace. It is a chance to reacquaint with myself and fall in love with who I am all over again. It is a chance to be proud of myself, a chance to explore what is important to me and ground myself. You can also use it as a chance to get schwasted, go buckwild, and live your best life with no judgement. Whatever works for you.

2. DO YOU EVER GET LONELY?

No. I'm a wanderer. I don't need nobody. Loneliness is for the weak. * EYEEE ROLLLL * Yes, of course I get lonely. There are times where it would be nice to have someone. Overlooking a breathtaking sunset, I wish there was a bae to hold my hand. Seeing something that sparks an inside joke, I yearn for my best-friend. If I start to feel sick I want to reach out for my mama. Loneliness is a normal and natural part of solo travel, but it's also what the whole experience is about. People are great, you love them, you need them, and you want them to experience these wonders with you. But just because you want them there, doesn't mean that you stop being there and it doesn't mean that they won't be there when you get back.

You have to take the good with the bad. In my experience, loneliness white traveling abroad have always been because I've closed myself off to those around me. There are people everywhere, you just have to go meet them. Loneliness is temporary, it fades. The traveling experience is eternal, you keep those memories for a lifetime. 

3. ARE YOU EVER NERVOUS ABOUT BEING TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF?

The simple answer is yes. As a woman, I am in constant fear of being taken advantage of (whether in America or abroad). This is the sad truth of the world we live in. There is a stigma surrounding foreign nations being more dangerous than America. This is something I'll go ahead and debunk. SHITS A LIE. I've been in many places I've felt safer in than I did at home. With that being said, I do usually check the crime levels wherever I go. It helps me feel better comparing the stats to those in the U.S. and understanding what my risk levels are.

All in all though, I suggest taking the same precautions you would at home. Stay cautious, don't get in cars with strangers, and never admit you're traveling alone unless you trust the person or you're in a hostel. I find hostels to be wonderful, welcoming places with seasoned travelers. If I'm looking for people to generally trust, I find those in the area rated highly on Couchsurfing.com and go from there. My best advice is to follow your gut. If something doesn't feel right, DON'T DO IT. Trust your instincts, they rarely steer you wrong.

 

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